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Another thing you can do while you are sitting still is reflect. Use a journal, you can order one here http://sharibrandtdesign.com/Journals.html

What is reflection?  Think about things.  Sometimes this can be overwhelming.  If you are thinking about someone in your life or situations you are not happy with, you can shut down, turn on the boob tube, have a drink or two or more, or open the fridge and overeat.  STOP!  Think about yourself and imagine that you are a computer, better yet, imagine that you are the internet.  If you ask questions, your mind (not just your brain) will search for answers or bring people into your life who have the answers or increase your awareness and lead you to an answer. 

So, this is where your journal is helpful.  Write down your question.  If you are thinking about a person you are not happy with, don’t just ask why, but ask what can you learn from being involved with that person.  Ask, does your relationship with this person make you feel good or bad.  I have known people that I have had fun with, but they were often late and I couldn’t trust that what they told me was the truth.  It didn’t feel good.  I tried changing my attitude for a while, but you also have to consider your values.  Are the people you are spending time with sharing your values?  When you are congruent in your life, better things happen.  Here’s an example.  If you do not drink heavily, but the people you are spending time with do drink heavily and much more frequently than you do, you may drink more heavily when you are with them.  Personally, I do not like hangovers.  There are a lot of people who have them regularly.  Pay attention to what you are doing. 

Another example from my own life is that I was not happy with where I was living.  The town I was living in was increasing taxes and electric rates and as a result my mortgage doubled and my electric bill became as high as my mortgage was before the tax increase.  I could live in nicer places for the money that I was spending to live here.  I had children in school, I could not sell my house for what I needed to move and so I had to change my attitude.  I had to change my mindset and while I felt like a victim for a time, I had to declare that I was making a decision to stay in my home and increase my income to accommodate the increased expenses.  At the same time, I was going to make it even more beautiful and a reflection of my artistic abilities.  It is now my intention that my home will become a landmark in my town.

When you write down your intentions, you begin to create an action.  When you ask questions, the answers will come to you.  A journal will help you to see your progress rather than beat yourself up and say, “I can’t believe I am still doing this!”  If you are reading this, chances are you are looking for change, so create it!